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Welcome to 2017!!

Firstly happy new year! I seriously don’t know where the last year has gone!? We’ve enjoyed so much together as a family and with our friends through 2016, it has been a good one for sure! We’ve had some great holidays, lovely summer fun, made some great memories with family and friends and we had the triplets christened. Looking back we’ve grown so much as a family of 6. 

Having said that the last few months I’ve also found really difficult and I’ve probably had some of the darkest days since having the girls nearly 2 years ago.We always joked at the beginning ‘the first 6 months will be the hardest’ well, as those months rolled into 9 months, then 12 months we were like, ‘maybe the first year will be the most difficult!’ Don’t get me wrong life now is alot easier than feeding 3 babies every 3 hours, plus not having to sterilise everything in sight, but the age they are at now brings new challenges. They are all walking, running, climbing, chatting and sometimes what I find difficult is they are 3 separate people with different wants and needs! 

So in September Flo started school, she is absolutely loving it and has settled in well which I guess is one less weight off my mind! Starting school though has been a real eye opener for me, if I thought it was tricky some days before, well think again! Getting 4 little people ready and out the door for the school run is a mission in itself some mornings, but then there’s the getting them all there, firstly we walk as it’s only up the road, so into the double buggy go 2 kids and 1 in my rucksack! (The triple doesn’t fit through the classroom gate so this is my only option!!) so by the time we get home from the school run I already feel like I’ve ran a marathon and it’s not even 9.30am!!!! 

Then I try to go to groups or meet up with friends to try and remain ‘normal’ but again it’s little things like lugging 3 toddlers in and out the car, trying to make sure nobody runs off while your getting them out one by one, or refereeing the fight that’s about to start as they all want to walk not go in the buggy!! Then trying to plan so they get a nap in to avoid world war 3, if they fall asleep in the car I then have to do 3 shuttle runs up and down stairs, I’m like some sort of parenting ninja tiptoeing up and down to avoid any wake ups so I get at least one hot cup of tea that I actually drink! In a nutshell it’s exhausting!!!

Needless to say over the last few months there have been quite a few tears from me, feeling like I’m losing the plot, and strangely alone which is ironic as I’m surrounded by so many children. Luckily I have great friends and a husband I can talk to, who all let me know I’m doing a good job (it is hard to believe sometimes when your just shattered) I knew this journey would be challenging, and not for one second did I think it would be easy, but I guess I didn’t realise with the amazing highs there also comes amazing lows. Nobody tells you about them though do they!? Thankfully I have some awesome mum friends that support me more than they know, and make me realise whether you have 1 child or 10 it’s normal to feel kind of crap sometimes and it DOES NOT define you as a person!!!!

So this year my pact to me is to stop being so tough on myself, know that I’m doing the best I can and most importantly be grateful for the 4 beautiful children we made that won’t be little for long, and this time will all be a hazey slightly sleep deprived memory!!

When I look back over the last year (with my logical non tired head on!) I realise just how far the girls have come, the milestones they achieved, their little personalities that are developing and the lovely bond growing between them and their big sister, I feel so very very proud of how we are raising our ‘team’ and if this year is half as good as the last we’ll be in for a good one!! Here’s to being happy and healthy for 2017! 

1 year ago 

Unbelievably a year ago today we were in the John Radcliffe hospital preparing ourselves for the birth of Eden, Amber and Erin. At the time were not thinking much ahead of the next 24hrs, let alone a year ahead. 

It’s been a quick year, but yet it seems so long ago that we were in the hospital having had our 3 tiny daughters delivered. To look at them now it’s hard to believe how small and fragile the girls were. 

There have been some tough times over the last year, the initial days in the NICU, the saying goodbye everyday whilst they stayed on Gosset ward, the sleepless nights when they came home, there has been numerous times I’ve thought ‘I just can’t do this’ ‘I’m not the right person for this job’ and needless to say there have been tears! As hard as its felt at times there’s not been a day where I’ve regretted the decision to ‘keep’ all 3 babies. Yes it still blows my mind if I think about it too much, but I still firmly believe that you are only sent things your able to deal with. 

I’ve been looking back at pictures of our journey over this last year, it is incredible how far the girls and us as a family have come. Thankfully we now have a sleep pattern, no more night feeds, it feels like a lifetime ago when we were feeding 3 babies every 3 hours and now they are sat up at the table with us eating actual food, we have our first crawler with Erin (so much for her being the smallest, that one will be first to everything, bugger being small!!) Amber is a little chatterbox, she worries me the most health wise as soon as she gets a cold it drops to her chest hopefully she’ll grow out of it!? And Eden… Well she’s an absolute beaut, she’s a chunky chilled happy little girl!! Seeing how the girls have grown and watching their personalities develop over their first year has been amazing. We have 3 happy content little babies (still with a bit of their mothers temper at times!) each day now they are doing something new, I love to watch how they interact with each other, one thing is for sure they know who their big sister is! I can’t say enough how proud I am of our beautiful Florence, life could have been even more challenging if Flo was a typical 3 year old! Thankfully we have (somehow) raised the most kind, caring, helpful and understanding little girl, there are many days when she is my saviour, one day when she reads this she realise how truly brilliant she has been with the life changing arrival of 3 baby sisters! Well done Flo your a star. 

There are many tough days, but it does feel like everyday that passes it becomes a bit easier!? One thing is for sure I could not do this without my amazing parents, mother in law, and our friends. So many times I’ve roared to them saying I can’t do it anymore!! Their always there to pick up the pieces and shove me and my hareem of children back in the right direction!! And then there’s Steve.. The hubs, I am so lucky to have met a man who’s such a hands on dad, he is brilliant with all the girls, we take turns with stuff at home so neither of us feel overwhelmed, it’s true what they say.. ‘Team work makes the dream work!!’ 

I’m not sure what the future holds, all I know is we’ve survived the first year without killing anyone or ourselves that’s pretty impressive right!!!?..

   
    
   

 

Happy New Year!!

I’m writing our blog today whilst chilling on the sofa with a cuppa, it’s been a crazy few days so it’s nice to just sit and relax! Well, Christmas has been and gone, is it me or does time go faster and faster each year!? We had a pretty quiet Christmas, we spent it at home with our folks, we’d all been ill again so it was quite tiring having 3 babies plus me and Steve feeling crappy, but we made it great for Flo who found everything magical! She is at the lovely age to really enjoy it, it did make me think how special it’ll be in a couple of years when all of them really ‘understand’ what’s happening!

Since our last blog we’ve had another stint in hospital with Amber, bronchiolitis again the poor little thing, we were in for 4 days this time, it becomes tricky trying to juggle everything at home, plus Flo, and work etc, luckily Steve is a real hands on Dad and the nights I stayed in hospital he held down the fort at home and vice versa.
Just before Christmas we took Eden to the doctors as she had really weepy eyes and once again we were sent to the hospital with her breathing, luckily they only kept her until the evening, but once one baby gets ill it’s not long before the others come down with it too!
We’ve resigned ourself to the fact that the girls are going to have times when they are in the hospital, as soon as they get a cold they do struggle with their breathing, it’s really difficult as their is nothing you can do to help them, 1 poorly baby is a worry let alone 3!
So needless to say the amazing bedtime routine and sleeping through the night which we managed to get for about 2 weeks has totally been shattered with coughing, puking or generally miserable little ladies! But fear not, we think we are coming to the end of it!?…. Famous last words!!
We’re hoping the new year will bring us happy and healthy children, because God knows I need a bloody rest!!!!
We are so lucky to have amazing family and friends that have helped us out so much in 2015, the times where we thought we couldn’t do it they’ve been there to help, sometimes taking all our girls so we can get a bit of time together as a couple, I seriously don’t know what we’d do without them, I most certainly wouldn’t be sane!!!
On a positive note we have 3 clever little babies that are now 10 months old (8 months corrected) they can sit up, roll over, still not quite crawling but it won’t be long, they wave and have really started interacting with each other it’s so cute to see their bond as sisters growing.
It feels like a lifetime of newborn babies but at the same time I can’t believe it’s been nearly a year and how far they’ve come from the tiny dots they were! I’m so excited to see what 2016 will bring to us as a family, we’ll carry on doing what we’re doing, were bumbling through this milarki pretty well I think!!!??…

 

image Picture of our girls taken by Alisdair Tait wearing head bands made by Jelly Threads

The First Six Months 

We spoke about making sure we wrote a blog today (been a while since the last one), as today the triplets are 6 months old. Unfortunately, Jaime is in hospital with Amber so the blog is written by me instead. 
It’s been a really quick 6 months, but yet it feels like a life time ago when it was just the three of us, let alone when it was just Jaime and I. This became really apparent to me this afternoon cuddling Amber to sleep in the hospital, it felt a long time (has been 5 months) since the girls and us left the hospital routine on Gosset ward, but yet you slip back into it very quickly, like it was only last week. 

It’s been a tough 6 months, with the disrupted nights sleep, the surround sound of crying that triplets can create, but also the magnified uncertainty of is what we’re doing right? With Flo we managed to find a routine that worked for her fairly quickly (following the principals outlined in a couple of good books). However, with three it’s different, largely because all three of them are different people. That sounds obvious but at 4am when Eden is screaming and Amber and Erin are both asleep it’s hard to remember that (especially when you go into settle Eden for the the fourth time and you now find that it’s Amber who’s awake!). 
A great help was again revisiting the books, and following their basic principles. Thankfully following these we are in a good routine now, with all 3 of the girls sleeping through the night (apart from when they are ill). 
So we have survived the first six months, and like I said earlier it’s the quickest/longest six months I’ve ever known. Our “survival” has in large been down to Jaime, having had a few weeks off work I have no idea how she looks after all 4 of our girls day in day out; she is an unbelievable mother and I’m in awe of what she does. Secondly, the help of our family and friends. Without their help this last six months would have been much much harder, if not impossible. 
So will this six months be the hardest? From those who have kids they already know the answer. One thing is for sure, we wouldn’t change a thing and we are looking forward to the next six months and beyond with our amazing family 


 

Operation ‘healthy bod’!!

So we’re now 14 weeks on from the the girls day of birth, they are all doing so well, all growing, at last count Eden was 10lb 3, Amber was 8lb 8, and Erin was 8lb 1!! They’ve come such a long way from the tiny little munchkins in incubators, they are smiling and really alert, they may be still slightly small compared to full term 3 month babies but don’t let that fool you, jeeeeez do their lungs work!!!? You literally have to grow such thick skin when they are all crying, they have been fed, changed, been winded and slept yet their still roaring all in unison you could easily fall into the trap of feeling like ‘I’m a bad mum’ ‘I can’t console my own children’ ‘I must be doing something wrong’ but in reality they are just babies, and babies cry!. Once you get your head around this you stop beating yourself up any time they have a screaming fit, you can think about the amazing job we’ve been doing so far!!!

We’ve had a few more appointments with the health visitors, doctor, hearing paediatrician and consultant, and the great news is Erin can hear!!!! We had started to notice her jumping at noises so was hopeful, then she passed her second lot of tests, and so we are hoping for the same result after Ambers retest next week. Fingers crossed! We’ve had an all change again with their formula, after seeing our consultant and expressing our concerns that the girls wouldn’t settle after feeding and sometimes we were lucky to even get them to drink an ounce at a time he suggested we tried a soya based formula as they may have a problem digesting the protein in cows milk. I worried at first he meant they were lactose intolerant but he assured us babies can’t be lactose intolerant that’s something you’d develop later on. So far so good the girls actually drink their bottles and settle afterward!! If it continues well over the next few days we will have to speak to the consultant again when we’re weaning as dairy will have to be gradually introduced. All in all I can’t believe how fantastic they are doing, to think we could have chosen to reduce our pregnancy to one baby doesn’t bear thinking about, they are tough cookies and I’m so proud of each hurdle we/they cross. 

It’s been a crazy journey from pregnancy to now, my body has gone through so many changes, I still don’t have full feeling around my c section scar, my boobs are sagging and I’m a bit wobbly, but I’d promised myself that once I’d had the girls I would get back in shape and feel fit and healthy, I’m still being treated for my pelvis, but this week has seen the start of operation ‘healthy bod’!! I’ve kick started with a clean 9, from forever living this is a fab way for me to cleanse my body and gradually up my exercise after nearly a year off! I was so surprised how fantastic I felt, really energised and the bonus is I’m half a stone lighter and have lost 1.5″ off my tummy, hips and thighs!!! What a kick start!!! Since having the girls I have to think about my time, I want to be there for all 4 of my beautiful girls so I’m building a business with forever from home that fits around my family.

I’m glad I have kept a photo diary week to week throughout pregnancy, I look pretty tired but it’s good to see the massive journey my body has been on to give us 3 more daughters, I also hope it shows people that it takes time to recover, and time for your body to return somewhere like it once was!! 

 

16-18-20 weeks pregnant

  

21-22-23 weeks pregnant

  

24-25-26 weeks pregnant

  

27-28-29 weeks pregnant

 

30-31 weeks pregnant

31+5 the girls birthday!

post pregnancy 4weeks- 6 weeks

  

post pregnancy 8 weeks-10 weeks

    

13 weeks post pregnancy – after clean 9 here and now!!!

Time has flown and haven’t they grown

I can’t believe it’s pretty much a month since my last blog post!!? Time has just flown by! It’s one big whirl of feeding, changing, crying, playing with the occasional bit of sleep thrown in!! We’ve managed to get out and about a lot with our tribe, they are part of our life and were keen to make sure they are included into our plans, not live in fear we’ll never do anything again. I’ve visited Lizzie and Geoff our Gosset ward roomies and their gorgeous twins over on their farm in brackley, I hope we remain friends for life, I miss them daily, we shared 6 weeks sharing everything all the ups and downs of premature babies, it was great to see them again!  

Lizzie with me and our 5 Gosset graduates

 Steve dusted off his rugby boots and played over in Bedford so that was a great night, with the help of my friends taking all 4 of the girls there to watch daddy! 

 

Flo enjoying being picked up by Steve after running around at half time at Goldington Road

 
I popped up to the trampoline centre, I felt very proud showing off my girlies, they got plenty of cuddles from everyone, I also dropped off some gorgeous thank you cards made especially for us from our friend June as a gift, and I picked up a ton more nappies from everyone’s kind donations, there really are no words for people’s kindness. I feel truly blessed. 
So, we have kind of established a good night time routine, we dream feed them around 10-11pm (for those non baby folk that’s where you pick up your baby whilst asleep feed them and put them straight back down, bloody genius!) they generally only wake once through the night around 2 is then up about 6am. Of course there have been days, like with any baby, when it doesn’t quite go to plan…only this time once one baby has finished roaring you’ve got another two that tag team the crying!!!! There has been the odd night of literally no sleep, just craziness!! It’s funny when I had Flo I found it the hardest thing ever, I constantly felt overwhelmed, like I was doing something wrong, I found one baby tough, well now I have 3, all at once, my gosh 1 baby was a walk in the park!!! With one you can take it in turns with your partner in the night if your knackered, but with 3 you just can’t, you have to both be up to feed, hopefully once their feeding is more established and they are finishing their bottles without having to bring up wind every few minutes we can roll a towel or use the bottle holders so they can all feed at once supervised by just one of us.  I’ve turned to my fellow triplet mummies to ask that elusive question of ‘sleeping through the night’ most found a full night sleep pattern around 5 months old or as you call it with pre term babies- X months corrected. Our girls are now 11 weeks old or 3 weeks corrected, they are getting bigger and stronger each day they will catch up! 

 

The girls getting bigger and stronger every day

 
They have struggled at the beginning quite badly with their digestion, constipation has been horrific for them often not going for 5-6 days! There were days I’d dread feed time, they just seemed in so much pain, not nice to watch or hear, But since changing their milk from the prescription formula which was so thick and heavy, to aptimil they have been so much better! The only thing different now is we have to give them their vitamins everyday until they are a year old. For any new mums out their grab yourself a bottle of gripe water, we’ve found it an absolute god send when their suffering we pipet a dropper full into their mouths before feeds, it’s actually help them to drink their bottles without being in pain and they wind so much easier afterwards! 

Erin and Amber have had their hearing re tests and the good news is they can both hear out of one ear each! We have more re tests it’s quite possible that it’s congestion in their tiny ear canals causing the loss of hearing, so fingers crossed for the next tests! 

We’ve also taken them to see a baby osteopath this has definitely helped the digestion and made them more alert. I’ve also had a good old clunk and click at the osteo, I’m back in just over a week, I can’t wait for that treatment as I should get the all clear to start exercising properly!! When you’ve come from a sporting background it’s really difficult to be told ‘your not to workout until 12 weeks’ I’m itching to get back to the gym, to getting on the trampoline and my gym fit sessions that I ran at n.t.g.a! If I’m brave enough I’ll post my pregnancy and post baby body pics on my next blog and the transition into exercise post baby, my aim is to see my tummy muscles again!!!!….

I’m regularly asked ‘how do you cope’ short answer.. You just do!! Let’s be honest what can you do? Not cope? Forget to feed them? Leave them somewhere!? I mean come on!!! Yes it’s a challenge, yes sometimes we’re tired, yes sometimes it feels like you’ve bitten off more than you can chew, but their our babies! We made them, all at the same time! I grew them all 3 in my tummy, they were tiny, they’ve been prodded and poked, had needles stuck in them, stuff done to their eyes and ears but their coping.  So I’m damn sure that two grown 35 years old adults can and will cope, you have to!! 

I know I am so lucky to have the support of amazing family and friends.  I see someone everyday, people pop in to help with feeds, have a brew and a chin wag, or I strap all 4 of my hareem in the car and we go visiting!!! I’m not afraid to ask for help if I need it.  Hats off to the ladies that do this by themselves, but while I have the offers of help I will take it!! 

 

Flo, Eden, Amber and Erin with my Mum and Dad

 
I can’t imagine life without our twiglets now, Flo has been incredible, she absolutely adores them it’s like they’ve always been part of our family. I don’t want to wish their lives away but I can’t wait to see how the develop, together and as individuals, one thing is for sure, our house will never be dull!!!

Eat, sleep, change, repeat 

The girls have been home just over a week now, and what a week it’s been! I felt so emotional leaving Gosset ward with the girls, the nurses and doctors have done such an amazing job building our ladies up enough so they could come home.  I’ve seen the staff everyday for 5 weeks, they become more than staff they have become friends. So even though we were excited to leave it was also very sad. 

We had spent the previous 2 days picking up any last bits we needed for the girls, we had put a cot up downstairs for the day time and 3 bouncy chairs ready for 3 little bums! It felt strange to have all our family together for the first time.  Steve showed the girls around their new house, before we kick started into our new routine with the babies! It was quite late once we went to bed but I felt so wired that I couldn’t sleep! The girls are currently all sharing a cot in their own room, I know there will be a lot of opinions about this, but we have to do what works for us, and this does! I lay there listening for them, every little sound or mummer I’d get up and check on, monitor firmly pressed next to my ear!! There were numerous times I’d get up to check if they were breathing, any mum out there will understand that feeling! 

Amber, Erin & Eden all tucked up for their first night at home

We survived the first night! That feeling of accomplishment between us was great, we had successfully looked after 3 babies, just another 18 years to go!!! It’s was great to have the girls home in the Easter holidays as steve is off work, then this week paternity leave so we’ve managed to get out together in the lovely weather. Our first outing probably took us two hours to get the girls ready, then figure out their buggy (for all those wondering I’ve gone with a double and a sling) but we didn’t care, we’d done it! I felt so impressed we’d managed to leave the house with 4 daughters and then arrive home with them all in one piece! I’m not going to lie, we got quite a few stares, or double takes, or people counting the babies, but I felt so proud I almost wanted to shout, ‘yes there’s 3’ ‘yes they are all ours including Flo’ and ‘yes they are natural’!!! 

It was my mums birthday over the weekend so we met family and friends at our local park cafe for lunch then back to ours, we had a steady stream of visitors on the Saturday which was nice for our family and friends to finally meet them for a cuddle. Steve had planned to ‘wet the babies head’ that Saturday as he expected the girls to still be in hospital! Well the tough little cookies wanted to come home but I felt steve still needed to go as a lot of friends and family had already got it in the diary. That night was pretty rough to say the least with the girls, they were very unsettled, straining in pain as they were constipated, if it wasn’t for my lovely friend Lauren staying the night to help I think I may have gone insane on my 40 minutes sleep!!! 

We decided that on Sunday we would really try to get the girls onto 4 hourly feeds, they left the hospital doing this but I guess due to their different appetites and the fact they are babies their pattern had got a bit higgledeepigglydee! We had a quiet couple of days to get them into a pattern, they have been prescribed lactalose as they had been so constipated on the nutraprem formula and had only pooed once since being home (not good). 

It feels like a whirlwind of craziness this last week, but we’ve been conscious to not let it confine us to our house, yes we have 4 kids but life has to go on, you’ve got to get up and get moving!! We are pleased to say we have established a good day and night routine for us, now they have been to the loo they are such contented babies. They comfort each other when they are in their cot, they feed every 3.5 hours through the day and 4 hours through the night, we make sure they are all fed at the same time, we’ve even managed to get bath time with 4 girlies so they are all in bed by 7.30!! 

All 4 of our girls enjoying a bedtime story

We both know there will be sleepless nights ahead of us, and plenty of challenging situations, but we both know this part doesn’t last forever, it may be hard for the first few months whilst they are so dependant on us, but we’re trying to savour every moment, even the crap ones as its over in a flash!! 

Loving every minute and thing about our little girls